As I have read and learned of the experience of many adults with learning disabilities, I have seen that the more successful adults develop coping strategies to overcome the effects. The more effective their strategies the more free they are from their disability. Some of them end up greatly developing their personalities and capacities as they strive to overcome and minimize the disability itself. This builds themselves up into stronger persons, debatably stronger than if they had never had the disability.
But several articles are quick to point out that there are many adults with disabilities who do not develop the capacity to overcome their disabilities, that respond negatively to the obstacles, and who are greatly impeded by their disabilities. These people are probably the majority and they pay the price for their disability much of the time. Everywhere, people are different and unique and cannot be placed into a cookie cutter.
In reading about my high-achieving dyslexic, Terry Goodkind, I have been amazed at what he has endured. And I find myself looking at him with respect and admiration, rather than pity, in regard to how he coped through his childhood years. He acknowledges the hardships that dyslexia presented, but he viewed them as just other obstacles in life that he had to overcome. It was not a major ordeal for him – he saw many other people in life with worse disabilities. What if we had been designed to have four arms? Born with two arms, we are coping as best we can with what we have. This is what Goodkind does with dyslexia.